My first sex the toy was a blue dildo. I was about 19 years old, and as a college student in New Hampshire, I did what anyone in my position would do: I went to the nearest town to find a sex shop. With my best friend, I ran in and out of Condom World on Newbury Street so quickly that I had time to grab the first sex toy I saw and pay for it, keeping my head down the whole time. To say that the early 2000s were different when it came to the acceptance of sex toys would be a huge understatement.
In my small town mind, it was something not to be discussed and the meaning of the word taboo. But they weren’t strong enough to prevent me from buying that blue battery-powered monstrosity with its veins and exaggerated head. I was embarrassed about it from the first day, even more so after using it, knowing exactly what to get out of it.
With age came wisdom
As I got to know my body better, testing myself alone or during sex with my partner, and with the other toys I had bought, I noticed. As much as I love going in with my partner(s), I didn’t enjoy dildos. I found a lot of them impersonal, poorly designed, and because it wouldn’t be until I was in my 30s that I could get an orgasm from G-spot simulation, on a pleasure level, they weren’t for me. This didn’t stop me from trying to get something out of them, especially since I started writing about sexual wellness and suddenly had a world of sex toys and new things at my fingertips.
My feelings about dildos changed a lot with the Lelo Gigi 3. Finally, an internal dildo with a flat head, as opposed to cone-shaped, which means it covers a large area of the G-spot. Latest news, just what I needed after all this time. While many other dildos have round heads, which many people like, the flat head of the Gigi 3 is what really sets it apart.
It’s not just the shape of the head, but the way it disperses the stimulus. Because the eight modes of vibration are delivered through a flat head, the sensations are more intense and resonant, which means I can feel them connecting and reaching more nerve endings. People with vulvas are often taught that when it comes to sexual pleasure, the focus is on the clitoris or the G-spot—or both at the same time—but the truth is that the entire region is full of nerve endings. Therefore, the reason why people with vulvas find orgasms outside of these two places, such as with the A-spot (anterior fornix) and the U-spot (urinary sponge).
When Size Matters
I am not a queen size. I’m the first to admit that smaller is better when it comes to external vibrators. However, when it comes to internal vibrators, the size and shape of the shaft matter. The Gigi 3 is the perfect size for G-spot stimulation. Even those who haven’t officially found their G zone will not miss out if they use the Gigi 3 because the length and small arc of the shaft puts that flat head where every man with a penis wants. For me, I like to put a few drops of water-based lube on the head and shaft of the Gigi 3, feel comfortable, and slide it in. From there, I can zoom in and out without fumbling with the buttons (the Gigi 3 is controlled by the app).
When I’m not in the mood for internal play, the Gigi 3’s flat head is perfect for direct clitoral stimulation or teasing other parts of my vulva. As I have read that the labia does not have as many nerve endings as the clitoris does not like to be ignored.
Is the Lelo Gigi 3 my favorite sex toy? No. Depending on the day and my mood, my favorite sex toys and vibrators change. But, if you’re someone with a vulva who has never liked dildos, the Gigi 3 could be your ticket to sexual pleasure. It can also reach the spot if you prefer clitoral stimulation, but want the vibration to include more than just the outer tip of the clit. Although the Gigi 3 can be used anywhere, inside and out, if you have a vulva, this is a must have.
